Alright, so before I start this post I want to iterate that this is only an opinion, and is by no means scientifically accurate information. It is just a thought I was thinking, haha.
There is a multitude of ways video games can ruin relationships. They take attention away from your significant other and create dissonance in the relationship. While video games are a good way to turn off your brain, and even build a romantic relationship, they are also distracting and time-consuming. What used to be a means of ignoring reality has now become the reality itself.
Video games have always impacted somebody’s commitment to a relationship. We see it happen all the time: the girlfriend wants to go out to eat, the boyfriend says he will pick her up, video games get involved, and now the boyfriend is an hour late to his own date. Although fun, video games are time-eaters and can alter time in our own reality, causing three hours to feel like one.
Now imagine a more positive scenario: boyfriend and girlfriend are a happy couple and love to play video games together. There is one catch, however, the boyfriend keeps buying new games to play (and this annoys the girlfriend). To the girlfriend, this shows that the boyfriend cannot commit to one game, and this irritates her because she is interested in the video game storyline. Seeing his lack of commitment, the girlfriend leaves the boyfriend because playing video games was a crucial part of their relationship. (Silly to think, but this does happen in some relationships).
But wait! Let us take a deeper look at that previous scenario. The girlfriend broke up with her boyfriend because of his lack of commitment to a video game. Imagine how the girlfriend feels about the commitment to the relationship! “If my boyfriend cannot even commit to one video game, maybe he cannot commit to me?” It is clear that the boyfriend has some type of commitment issues, but how does wanting to play a different, new video game impair a relationship?
I will tell you how! The boyfriend cannot commit! Think about it, video games have been directed to boys/men since the dawn of video games. The marketing teams for any video game (up until this century) have always put an emphasis on what the new game, trend, and story will be next. This means that all of the “new, new, new” marketing that has been created specifically for boys/men have seeped into their subconscious mind. This formulates a style of thinking in men that translates to “I want the next best thing, even if I already have something good.” They want what is new whether it is good or bad. (If the new game turns out to be bad, then they go right back to the old video game. Sound familiar?)
GASP! So men have been unfaithful to video games just as much as they have been towards their girlfriend?! (We all knew that…haha). Yes and no. Obviously, there are decent men out there, but for the most part, you do see this thinking pattern of “what is next?” or “what is the next best thing?” with men. They are never truly happy with what they already have because they are insecure within themselves. A man could be playing the most perfect video game, but the moment a new game is released, he buys it faster than he can save his progress on the old, “perfect” game.
Video games are a great way to relax, create memorable moments, and form meaningful relationships with the people you love and complete strangers. They are great time consumers but also great time-takers, and can affect relationships in our lives. Subconsciously, video games can have a plethora of effects on our minds, and alter the reality we live in. Play safe, play smart, and for the love of goodness, appreciate your significant other (and the video games you already have, hehe).
Committed,
E.
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